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[ljgeoff]

I have been stuck on this whole thing with Len. Last night something clicked in my head and I became a little less stuck.

A difference that makes no difference is no difference at all.

Tammy and I are using different definitions for "monogamy". Her definition of a monogamous relationship is a dyadic relationship where both partners only have sex with one another, and no one else. My definition of a monogamous relationship, somewhat to my surprise, is a dyadic relationship where both partners are only in love with each other, and to no one else.

I'm not sure how things are going to go now. Slowly. But my head is in a better place.

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[kightp.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a damned productive "click." Let it sit for a while, and see what develops. It sounds as if you may be able to work this out to some kind of comfort level.

[ailbhe]

Does Tammy know that that's her rule? Perhaps she doesn't believe it's possible to be "properly" in love without sex? Because it's two definitions I've heard of before, and I imagine (no empirical evidence) that it could get messy if Tammy hasn't thought things through.

Good luck.

[ljgeoff.livejournal.com]

wow, that's a really good point. Hmmm, gonna have to talk to Len on this one. (Tammy and I aren't quite talking yet)