how not to meet new people

[ljgeoff]

I don't think that "meeting" people from polymatchmaker is gonna work for me. I struck up a conversation with a fellow down in Madison, and though he seems like a nice enough guy, he's impatient with the whole getting to know each other thing and pretty much just wants to move on to the sex part.

Now, I like the sex part. But I think I like the knowing someone a lot more. There are two men that I write to, lovely long letters filled with evocative description, inner thought and emotion, and I think that these letters fill my needs for additional contact much better than a casual sex partner. For some reason this is working out as an "either-or" kinda thing right now, which is too bad, but that's the way it is.

Now I need to write a letter to the guy down in Madison, because I think that I'm not going to meet him for dinner while I'm down there after all. I dunno, perhaps I'm judging him too quickly - I'll just tell him what I'm thinking and see what he says.

Comments

[johnpalmer.livejournal.com]

You know, I never quite thought about this... but that's exactly how I am.

It's one of the things that makes it hard for me to make connections on a romantic level because I don't want to end up sexually involved without knowing a person.

At the same time, I also think I understand part of the idea of "let's jump to sex, quickly". I also have an urge to know that I'm thought of as attractive, and "Sure, I'll have sex with you" includes "I find you at least somewhat attractive".

[firecat]

Yeah. I've become a long-courtship sort of person in my middle age.