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Aug. 7th, 2005 03:22 pmHmm, been awhile, so where to start.
My oldest son, Jake, turned 18 last Wednesday. He has decided that he wants to move to the St. Paul, MN area to finish high school. I kinda rolled with this one. Jake has always been very independent. He's a bright kid (held a 3.7 last year), and he's focused on his goals - finish well in high school and go on to college. Mike thinks it's a really stupid idea, and that we should make it hard for him. Since he's going to go no matter what we do, I don't see why we shouldn't help him succeed. He'll be living with his friend John, in the apartment complex that John's mom lives in. He'll have to work at least 30 hrs a week to be able to pay his bills, and that's with us paying for his car insurance. Mike doesn't want us to pay for Jake's car insurance. This is one of those issues that we simply will not agree on. I'm not sure yet how I'm going to handle it.
Mike and Jake have grown distant during Jake's teenage years. Mike isn't a very good communicator, and Jake says that he never knows how to talk to Mike, either. Jake is the kind of kid that Mike disliked, when Mike was that age -- popular, cocky, a jock, and good at just about anything without trying.
Mike thinks that Jake smokes a lot of pot, and drinks. Jake has said that he does smoke and drink every once and a while, but not that much. I don't see how a kid who's pulling a 3.7 could be partying as much as Mike thinks he does. I don't see how Mike could have lived with Jake for 14 years and not know him. When we disagree, Mike just says - "Well, he's your son. Do what you want." And that kills me.
This is my and Mike's most sensitive issue, where neither of us will bend. So we both ignore it as much as possible. When Mike gets home in January, Jake will have been on his own, (well, mostly on his own) for six months. I'm praying that Jake is successful. Immensely successful. I want to throw it in Mike's face. I hate feeling this way.
My oldest son, Jake, turned 18 last Wednesday. He has decided that he wants to move to the St. Paul, MN area to finish high school. I kinda rolled with this one. Jake has always been very independent. He's a bright kid (held a 3.7 last year), and he's focused on his goals - finish well in high school and go on to college. Mike thinks it's a really stupid idea, and that we should make it hard for him. Since he's going to go no matter what we do, I don't see why we shouldn't help him succeed. He'll be living with his friend John, in the apartment complex that John's mom lives in. He'll have to work at least 30 hrs a week to be able to pay his bills, and that's with us paying for his car insurance. Mike doesn't want us to pay for Jake's car insurance. This is one of those issues that we simply will not agree on. I'm not sure yet how I'm going to handle it.
Mike and Jake have grown distant during Jake's teenage years. Mike isn't a very good communicator, and Jake says that he never knows how to talk to Mike, either. Jake is the kind of kid that Mike disliked, when Mike was that age -- popular, cocky, a jock, and good at just about anything without trying.
Mike thinks that Jake smokes a lot of pot, and drinks. Jake has said that he does smoke and drink every once and a while, but not that much. I don't see how a kid who's pulling a 3.7 could be partying as much as Mike thinks he does. I don't see how Mike could have lived with Jake for 14 years and not know him. When we disagree, Mike just says - "Well, he's your son. Do what you want." And that kills me.
This is my and Mike's most sensitive issue, where neither of us will bend. So we both ignore it as much as possible. When Mike gets home in January, Jake will have been on his own, (well, mostly on his own) for six months. I'm praying that Jake is successful. Immensely successful. I want to throw it in Mike's face. I hate feeling this way.