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[ljgeoff]

My to-do list just got chopped to pieces. Mike has decided not to go to the SCA event this weekend. He'll take the boys fishing and camping, locally, instead. We're setting our sites on Border War -- we had a great time there year-before-last, and Andrew is planning on coming along, too.

I'd have to say that, if I were Mike, I'd go just for the boys, but I'm a lot more self-sacrificing than Mike is, which ain't necessarily a good thing. I'm very happy that I'm locked in to Wiscon.

I think that Len is clinically depressed. Since he refuses vehemently to seek any treatment, I'm not sure what else to do. I tend to think that a task-oriented, solution-based focus works best. But Len seems completely uninterested in finding solutions to the problems he says are making him miserable. We talked for a while last night. A synopsis would be Len saying -I'm a miserable fuck-up, I hate my life and nothing is ever going to get any better. - with me interjecting negative-sounding noises.

Objectively, his life is much, much better than it was a year ago. He has a few roadblocks right now, but the sorce of his current unhappiness is somewhat nebulous - loneliness being the main factor. So he isolates. Vicious cycle.

Ok, enough on-line fretting. Gotta get the boys some lunch and take it up to the school (got up late), and find Sam's track shirt. And gotta work 3-11 tonight. Tomorrow is prep day for the con.

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[kightp.livejournal.com]

Lisa, you might find some of the comments on this recent post of mine (about dealing with a clinically depressed partner) helpful. Although johnpalmer is pretty self-aware about his own depression, and has a lot of experience managing and coping, he still sometimes slides into a place where I can barely reach him, much less help him. I'm learning - and those who discussed the topic in my journal enforced that - that it's important to take care of me when that happens, and to understand my limits when it comes to being able to help.

[ljgeoff.livejournal.com]

Yep. I did follow that post and the replies when it was posted. Some of the stuff that's going on with Len right now is situational - he just had a falling out with a long-time friend. I'm hoping that when he deals with the pain of that, he'll get on a more stable footing.

He simply will not seek treatment. Psychologists are for crazy people, don't ya know. *head to desk* *thunk*

The limits thing - yeah, that's what I'm having the most trouble with. Bleh.